It’s not the easiest thing to diagnose.

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Derealization Disorder can be described as:

“ Detachment from one’s surroundings. Individuals experiencing derealization may report perceiving the world around them as foggy, dreamlike/surreal, or visually distorted.”

There’s a whole bunch of psychotherapy jargon to describe why Derealization (and Depersonalisation) happens. Here’s a good way to think of it: It’s a self-defense mechanism created by the brain to detach you from certain situations. Usually, situations that are emotionally and/or physically stressful.

While Depersonalisation is greatly linked to Derealization, the two are completely separate entities and it’s important to distinguish the difference between the two. In simple terms:

You have a skill. Use it.

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I try to write every day. Even on the days when I’m not particularly “feeling it” I knuckle-down and clatter my fingertips to the keyboard until something of some description finally happens. But it’s not because it’s my job; It’s because there’s a part of me that feels like I have an obligation to do what I do.

If you can write (and by “write” I don’t just mean playing with the idea of writing. I mean having a skill for the game) then you should do it as much as humanly possible, in a whole host of ways. There…

Have you considered you might be the villain?

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Relationships are complex machines.

Like most complex machines, they’re often difficult to interpret. Many of these machines, like computers, have the advantage of being able to scan themselves to uncover any hidden errors that could be messing things up.

Sadly, human beings don’t have this advantage.

Most of us are unable to take an objective look at ourselves and highlight our own faults. Either because we’re simply incapable of doing so, or because it’s too painful. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships.

No villain ever thought he was the villain of his own story. This is…

Practical advice to stay strong when you’re miles apart.

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Long-distance relationships usually go one of two ways:

But it doesn’t always have to be this way. I and my current partner spent 7 whole years in a long-distance relationship.

The was even before COVID forced us all indoors.

Long-distance relationships are perfectly manageable in a long-term playing field. Especially if you’re in a long-distance relationship and would like things to last.

But don’t fret… According to a 2018 survey, around 60% of long-distance relationships go the distance…

She’s brilliant, bad, and a little bit mad.

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Cruella is the latest in the lineup of Disney remakes/reboots/origin stories we’ve grown to love or loathe over the past few years. It might not be the strongest piece the House of Mouse has ever produced, but Emma Stone’s powerhouse performance as the titular anti-hero elevates the film above much of its current competition.

However, while many may see this as Disney “cashing in” on another iconic character, Cruella dives surprisingly deep into emotional themes we could all learn something from.

The following contains mild story spoilers, but nothing too crazy. Proceed with caution.

Embrace what makes you different.

“From the very beginning, I’ve always…

Committing to something is daunting, but it needs to be done.

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Looking back at my life, I’ve come to realize just how much time and how many opportunities I’ve lost through the inability to make simple decisions.

Jobs. Relationships. Possessions. Everything has been affected by my lack of action.

So over the past few months, I’ve committed to diving head-first into decision-making, big and small.

If something needs to be done, I do it. If something needs to be fixed, I fix it (or I get it fixed). If something could lead to a positive outcome, I give it a go and let the pieces fall where they may.

While I’m…

4 actionable tips that will improve your self-worth as a creative

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Creatives are a funny bunch.

Many of us are confident, talkative, and — dare I say it — egotistical. Then, on the other hand, many of us are at the exact opposite end of the spectrum: Shy, reserved, and riddled with self-doubt.

(I’m definitely the latter.)

The sad truth is most creatives who want to experience major success in their chosen field need to fall under the first category. They’re happy to speak with others about their passions, attend networking events, and take chances many wouldn’t dream of.

Turning your creativity into a career when you struggle with self-doubt and…

We all need to start somewhere.

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Very few of us end up in our dream job the second we enter the working world. And that’s OK.

Most of us will spend years grinding away in lower positions on the ladder we want to climb. Some of us will never reach the top of the ladder or get past the middle steps. Some of us, sadly, will never even make it onto the ladder at all. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t still strive to make it.

That’s where intermediary jobs come in.

Chances are, if you’re young and fresh out of college or university, you’re going…

Words hurt only if you let them.

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I grew up as a chubby, freckled-faced ginger kid with serious social anxiety and a pretty bad speech impediment. So to say I was subjected to one or two devastating insults during my youth would be an understatement.

For years I allowed the mindless and hurtful comments of others to destroy my self-esteem. Or what little of it I had.

But one day, I had an epiphany: What if I was able to absorb the bile spewed by remorseless, idiotic children and use it to my advantage? …

I wrote professionally for years without one but am now seeing the benefits

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After graduating from University, I started putting one word in front of the other on a variety of topics as a hobby in my spare time. Eventually, it became how I made my living. I’m forever grateful for that.

Between working odd jobs and trying to find a sense of direction in this crazy world, writing became an instant escape for me — somewhere to funnel a sense of creativity and dedication that I’d been missing for a long time.

The only problem was, looking back, my writing setup was less than ideal. For starters, I didn’t even have a…

Jim Sullivan

Full-time Writer. Featured in The Startup, Invisible Illness, The Ascent & more. Mental Health, Creativity, Productivity. Coffee and cake tend to help!

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